Boyfriends and Girlfriends in Islam is forbidden

Advisory: I'm not trying to point out here someone.
If any of you are in this relationship, then I don't
want to know, it's just between you and Allah. The
reason why I've posted this is because I want to
see you entering Jannah, may Allah give us
understanding ameen.
All praise be to Allah.
Taking a girlfriend does not only destroy the
family, it destroys society, and those who do this
are threatened with the punishment and wrath of
Allaah. Love is a sickness that destroys the heart
and leads to evil and immorality. The Shaytaan will
keep tempting them and pushing them until they
commit immoral actions and thus each gets what
he or she wants from the other.
There are many forbidden matters associated with
this, such as transgressing against the honour of
others, betraying trust, being alone with a member
of the opposite sex, touching, kissing, speaking
immoral words, then the greater evil which occurs
at the end, which is the sin of zina.
Allah the most glorified has forbidden such an
indecent relationship in the Qur'an (interpretation
of the meaning, )
"…not committing fornication, nor taking them as
lovers (i.e. girlfriends)…" (Al-Maa'ida, 5:5)
The fact that the questioner says “no one knows
about us” is strange. How can he forget about his
Lord Who knows what is secret and what is yet
more hidden, and who knows the fraud of the eyes
and all that the hearts conceal. (cf. Ghaafir 40:19).
Allah the most glorified says in the Quran
(interpretation of the meaning):
"Do not even go near fornication..." (Al-Isra 17:32)
You see how Allah has constructed this sentence,
he didn't say "do not perform fornication" but
rather he said "do not go 'near' fornication" which
is clear that boyfriends and girlfriends are one of
the reasons of going near fornication.
You should note that correspondence and contact
between the sexes is one of the doors that lead to
fitnah (temptation). Sharee’ah is filled with
evidence which indicates that it is essential to
beware of falling into the traps of the shaytaan in
this matter. When the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) saw a young man
merely looking at a young woman, he turned his
head so as to make him look away, then he said:
“I saw a young man and a young woman, and I did
not trust the shaytaan not to tempt them.”
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (885) and classed as
hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
This does not mean that it is haraam for a man or
woman to like a specific person whom he or she
chooses to be a spouse, and feel love for that
person and want to marry them if possible. Love
has to do with the heart, and it may appear in a
person’s heart for reasons known or unknown. But
if it is because of mixing or looking or haraam
conversations, then it is also haraam. If it is
because of previous acquaintance, being related or
because of hearing about that person, and one
cannot ward it off, then there is nothing wrong
with that love, so long as one adheres to the
sacred limits set by Allaah.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him)
said:
If love develops for a reason that is not haraam, a
person cannot be blamed for that, such as one
who loves his wife or his slave woman, then he
leaves her but that love remains and does not
leave him. He is not to be blamed for that. The
same applies if he glances accidentally then looks
away, but love may settle in his heart without him
wanting it to. But he has to ward it off and look
away. End quote.
Rawdat al-Muhibbeen (p. 147).
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy
on him) said:
A person may hear that a woman is of good
character and virtuous and knowledgeable, so he
may want to marry her. Or a woman may hear that
a man is of good character and virtuous and
knowledgeable and religiously committed, so she
may want to marry him. But contact between the
two who admire one another in ways that are not
Islamically acceptable is the problem, which leads
to disastrous consequences. In this case it is not
permissible for the man to get in touch with the
woman or for the woman to get in touch with the
man, and say that he wants to marry her. Rather
he should tell her wali (guardian) that he wants to
marry her, or she should tell her wali that she
wants to marry him, as ‘Umar (may Allaah be
pleased with him) did when he offered his daughter
Hafsah in marriage to Abu Bakr and ‘Uthmaan
(may Allaah be pleased with them both). But if the
woman contacts the man directly, this is what
leads to fitnah (temptation). End quote.
Liqaa’aat al-Baab il-Maftooh (26/question no. 13)
Sisters, I ask you a question, open your mind and
think, if he really loves you, do you think he wants
you to suffer the wrath of Allah? If he really loves
you then he must go to your wali, not to you.
Remember that you are angering your Lord with
such sins as being alone with him, meeting him
and talking to him, and anything more than that is
even more serious.
You should realize that zina does not only involve
the private parts, rather the eyes may commit zina,
the ears may commit zina, the hand may commit
zina and the foot may commit zina, as was proven
from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him). All of that leads to the zina of the
private parts. So do not let the Shaytaan deceive
you, for he is an enemy to you who wishes you evil
and tells you to commit immoral actions.
So, it is obligatory upon you to repent to Allah and
to regret what has passed and to have the firm will
not to return to the same action again, and to do
good deeds and perform acts of worship to expiate
the evils of that sin, and Allah is surely forgiving
and merciful.
You have to look for righteous friends, and you
have to keep yourself busy doing that which Allaah
loves and is pleased with. Pay attention to the best
and most sublime things and leave alone the worst
and most vile things. Make the most of your youth
in obeying and worshipping Allaah, seeking
knowledge and calling others to Allaah. Remember
that there were those of your age and younger who
were men who had memorized the Qur’aan, who
sought knowledge, whom the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) sent to call
others to Allaah and to enter the religion of Islam.
May Allah forgive our sins and grant each of us a
good spouse in future ameen.
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others jazakumullahu Khairan wa Jaza.