01 - FEAR ALLAH :- It was the noble practice of Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم) to make the spouses aware of the fear of ALLAH, before performing a Nikah by reciting the verses (Al Nisa 14, Al Ahzab 69, Aali imran 101).
02 - NEVER BE ANGRY AT THE SAME TIME :- Anger is d root cause for all marital disputes. So "Control your anger".
03 - IF ONE HAS WIN AN ARGUMENT, LET IT BE THE OTHER:- Nabi e kareem (صلى الله عليه وسلم) Said, "Whoever discards an argument despite being correct shall earn a palace in the center of Jannah" (Mishkat pg.412).
04 - IF U HAVE to CRITICIZE, DO IT LOVINGLY:- Nabi (S.A.W) Said, "A Mu'min is a mirror for a Mu'min" (Abu Dawood vol 2, pg 325 imdadiya) (Advice with Dignity & Silently).
05 - NEVER SHOUT AT EACH OTHER UNLESS THE HOUSE IS ON FIRE:- Luqman (a.s) while offering advice to his son Said, "And lower your voice for verily d most disliked voice is that of a donkey" (Surah luqman19).
06 - NEVER BRING UP MISTAKES OF THE PAST :- Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم) Said, "Whoever conceals the faults of others, Allah shall conceals his faults on the day of Qayam'ah".
07. NEGLECT THE WHOLE WORLD RATHER THAN YOUR MARRIAGE PARTNER :- Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم) Confirmed d advice of Salman (رضي الله عنه) for neglecting his wife, "verily there is a right of your wife over you"(Nasai 2391).
08 - NEVER SLEEP WITH AN ARGUMENT UNSETTLED:- Hazrat Abu Bakar (رضي الله عنه) resolved his dispute with his wife over feeding the guest before going to bed (Bukhari 602).
09 - AT LEAST, ONCE EVERY DAY, EXPRESS YOUR GRATITUDE TO YOUR PARTNER :- Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم)
Said, "Whoever doesn't show gratitude to the people has not shown gratitude to ALLAH"(Abu dawud pg. 662).
10 - WHEN U HAVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG, BE READY TO ADMIT IT AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS:- Nabi (صلى الله عليه وسلم) Said,"All d son of Adam commit error. And d best of those are those who seek forgiveness" (Tirmidhi 2499).
There are many ways of increasing love between the couple, consider the following these 10 points to maintain a happy marriage & control d instincts of dispute...
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