THE IDEAL MUSLIM HUSBAND...

(Read this and share as much as possible, your
sharing can aid many marriages... In'shaa'Allah)
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said,
“The best amongst you are the ones who are best
to their wives.” So dear Muslim brother! Your
obligations towards your wife are not limited to
earning money and supporting her financially. A
wife needs love from her husband, and emotional
support too!
Here are 10 points to take into account..
1) DRESS UP FOR YOUR WIFE:- look clean and
smell good. Remember that our beloved Prophet
(peace be upon him) would always start with
Miswak when returning home and always loved the
sweetest smells.
2) CALL HER WITH THE SWEETEST NAMES:-
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) had
nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call
your wife by the most beloved names to her, and
avoid using names that hurt her feelings. Love her
unconditionally for the sake of Allah.
3) REWARD HER ACTIONS:- Recognise all the good
that she does and focus on that. Whenever there is
a fight or argument, just remember all the things
she does for you. she cooks for you, she takes care
of your home, she takes care of your children and
the most important thing is that she guards her
modesty. So do not upset her if she is upset with
you. Only your love can repel her anger.
Communicate with her and discuss with her if there
are any misunderstandings.
4) REMAIN SILENT:- If you see wrong from your
wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is
one of the ways our Prophet (peace be upon him)
used when he would see something inappropriate
from his wives. Do not criticise her all the time. If
she is doing something that you don’t like, or that
goes against the teachings of Islam, then do advice
her gently.
5) SMILE:- Smile at your wife whenever you see
her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and
your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah.
Tell her often that you are very happy and blessed
to have her. A wife always wonder how her
husband feels about her. She may have some
insecurity about you, so make her feel secure.
6) ACKNOWLEDGE HER:- Thank her for all that she
does for you. Then thank her again! Remember, in
Islam, everyday is special. So celebrate wife’s day
with her, and do it very often without having a
particular date.
7) TAKE CARE OF HER DURING HER PREGNANCY
AND BREASTFEEDING:- Offer extra moral and
physical support during these difficult phases in her
life. Don't feel your manly ego busted if you have
to give the baby its bottle or pacify it, while she
attends to an older child or her own genuine needs.
Be a alert and hands-on father; this attribute will
make her love you even more!
8) VALIDATE HER FEELINGS:- Don’t belittle her
desires. Comfort her. If there is a time of sadness,
give her your shoulder to cry on. Hold her and tell
her that everything will be fine.
9) HAVE FUN:- Be humorous and play games with
her. Take our Prophet (peace be upon him) would
race his wife Aisha (May Allah be pleased with her)
in the desert. She appreciates a husband with a
good sense of humour, one that tells her decent
and modest jokes to make her smile. Indulge in
playing various games with the kids and involve her
too.
10) BE THE BEST HUSBAND:- Always remember
the words of Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon
him): “The best of you are those who treat their
families the best. And I am the best amongst you
to my family.”
She is your best friend, girlfriend and soul mate.
Share everything with her. Remember she is your
garment and you are her garment, so hide her
faults and mistakes. Learn to forgive her. Respect
her parents and show your love to her family. This
will inspire her to love and respect your family. If
her family is not muslim, do dawah to them in a
beautiful way.
And most importantly spend lots of time praying to
Allah (during night & day). Do fast often even if it
is not Ramadan. Lead her in the prayer. There is
nothing better than praying together. Remember
Allah, so that Allah remembers you.
May Allah bless every marriage.. Aameen
Spread the knowledge so it will be Sadqa-e-Jaaria
for you and for me... In'Shaa'Allah.