What does Islam say about Mothers?

Abdullah Ibn 'Umar saw a Yemeni man performing Tawaf (circumambulating the Ka'bah) while carrying his mother on his back. This man said to Abdullah Ibn 'Umar, "I am like a tame camel for her! I have carried her more than she carried me. Do you think I have paid her back, O Ibn 'Umar?" Abdullah Ibn 'Umar replied, "No, not even one contraction!!"
[Al-Adab al-Mufrad Bukhari 1/62]

SubhanAllah (Glory be to God)! The efforts of a man who carries his mother on his back while performing tawaf cannot even repay his mother for a single contraction that she went through for him. Wise indeed was Ibn 'Umar's reply to this man to show him how massively indebted he was to his mother. This is the tremendous value and prestigious position of mothers in Islam!

Yet another example is found in the following prophecy of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him):

There will come to you with reinforcements from Yemen a man called Uways ibn 'Amir of the clan of Murad from the tribe of Qaran. He had leprosy but has been cured of it except for a spot the size of a coin. He has a mother and he has always treated her with kindness and respect. If he prays to Allah, Allah will fulfill his wish. If you can ask him to pray for forgiveness for you, then do so.
[Sahih Muslim 16/95]

Indeed, later on 'Umar ibn al-Khattab met Uways who was exactly as the Prophet described, and upon 'Umar's request Uways prayed for him. Commenting on this narration, Shaykh Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimî writes:

What a high status Uways reached by virtue of his kindness and respect towards his mother, so that the Prophet recommended his Sahabah [companions] to seek him out and ask him to pray for them!

A NASEEHA to ME and YOU!! OUR PHONES ......................

One of the hardest task in this 21st century is for the youths to spend 30 mins without "touching" their phones!

Almost everyone is now a phone addict.

It's the last thing you touch before you sleep at night.

It's the first thing you touch when you wake up at dawn

Some even put earpiece on their ears overnight.

Some still wake at night to download films but they can't wake up for tahajud.

Some are always "online" chatting.

As early as 6am they are online and they remain online till midnight.

They have thousands of friends online whom they chat with but they don't relate with their families at home.

They isolate themselves in their rooms.

Some argue till midnight about aqeedah issues, yet by fajr time, he is sleeping and snoring.

Immediately after the tasleem in salat, you see people pressing their phones again, no time for adhkaar!

As if all their past and future sins have already been forgiven!

When accidents happen, instead of saving lives, you see people snapping the victims with their phones.

When a house is burning, instead of quenching it, you see people snapping so as to be the first to upload it on social network.

When a person loses a loved one, instead of thinking about the funeral issues, the first thing the person does is to upload the news on social network perhaps to get
comments!

We are so addicted to phones, we even chat when we are on motorcycles.

Some still chat in the exam halls.

Some play games with their phones in the masjid.

# Subhanallah
Some watch films in the masjid.
What a fitnah befalling the Ummah.

Along the road, some keep pressing their phones, until perhaps they narrowly dodge an accident or until a banana peel slips them.

Even when we have guests, we still concentrate on our phones than our guest.

Some ignore their spouses because they are chatting with "mere friends" on Facebook!

Some use Suratul Asr to hasten their salat because of their phones, not knowing that Suratul Asr is talking about spending time in righteous deeds.

Many are those whose phones have made them "hypocrites". Many are those whose phones are leading them to hellfire
Because of your phone, you are the last person to come to Juma'ah and you are always the first
person to leave!

Allah said, 'Closer and closer to mankind comes their judgement, yet they don't take heed, and they turn away' (Sura Al-Anbiyaa vs 1)

Sheik Uthaymeen rahimahuLlah said, Whoever does not spend his time for the sake of Allah, what is better for him is DEATH!

May Allah forgive our numerous sins, ameen.

Please educate others, May Allaah reward your efforts, ameen.

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SOME THINGS A MUM TEACHES HER DAUGHTER BEFORE MARRIAGE AND EVEN WHILES MARRIED

1. My daughter, don’t cause a separation between your man and his siblings; it could be dangerous for you when they finally speak with one voice.

2. My daughter, I know that some of you girls don’t wish to marry a man whose mother is still alive, don’t ever think like that, if you do, well, I think your son’s wife- to-be should start wishing you're dead now.

3. My daughter, listen to me, when I married your father, he was as tiny as his salary but I chose to grow with him and today, those cars out there are some of the results of what we started so little, together, and we’re proud looking at them.

4. My daughter, there is this thing i see happening in your time, some of you girls now get pregnant before the wedding day, well, it never happened in our time because no matter what, we never opened our laps before the wedding.

5. My daughter, well, yes, I once locked up the cloth of your father because I got to my limit of patience and that was the only thing I could do, but one thing I haven’t said was that we settled the issue that same day and that was the last time I tried that.

6. My daughter, when your Father was riding a bicycle, I was always happy to hop on it and ride with him, not because I didn't see those men in their little cars but because my eyes also saw those men trekking to their farms.

7. My daughter, if you and your husband eat a little food with love, you both would be satisfied. Times are not always the same; support him in every phase he’s passing through.

8. My daughter, don’t ever close your laps to your husband in bed , the day he paid your dowry was the day you lost your will to do so, don’t be stiff and try to satisfy him even if you were angry with him.

9. My daughter, under the cocoa tree that I did meet with your Father was open and good enough for our discussions, yes; it was open and good enough if you understand what I mean.

10. My daughter, in our time, we had sexy legs and firm bosoms to show our men, in fact, we had the finest ones, yet, when we dress, we cover those parts of our body, not because we were not civilized as you people would call it, but because we know that the eyes of men are hungry, many of them would only come, touch and go their way.

11. My daughter, there is this thing you girls now practice, they say it’s feminism. Well, you can prove to be equal to a man in the society but please, not in your marriage because at my old age, I don’t want to start counting your husbands.

12. My daughter, marriage is not a Rehabilitation Center, if he’s not good enough for you before marriage, nothing he does would be good enough after marriage.

13. My daughter, you can see I still wear my night gown, yes, because to my husband; your father, I still want to look sexy. So, take good care of your body, look good for your man and don’t look like a grandma after giving birth.

14. My daughter, I’m your mother and still, I'm not interested in you coming to me always if anything goes wrong with your husband. Though nowadays I see some mothers controlling the homes of their sons and daughters, I would only say; shame on them!

15. My daughter, for you to have a peaceful home and well-trained children, have one voice with your husband, join him to say NO when he’s saying NO before the kids but later when you both are alone, you can plead with him for a YES, if not, the children will see a loophole to misbehave, either to you or their father.

16. My daughter, your generation does not see any pride in been a virgin before marriage, it’s a shame! Your father met me a virgin and he brought more yams to my parents and up till today, he’s still proud of me when we discuss in that direction.

17. My daughter, I know that no man out there is complete, but when you are looking for your tall, slim, fair and handsome, if he’s a woman-beater, please, go for the short, fat, dark and ugly that will give you the respect you deserve as a woman.

18. My daughter, when I say over 52 years of marriage, it wasn't that I did not see any reason to leave your father, I saw a lot of them but I bear his faults, i forgave him to stay marff My daughter, these are part of the wisdom i have gathered over the years. And If I had taken my time to tell you all these, and your marriage doesn't last like that of your father and I, then I had wished i n[truncated by WhatsApp]

THE MOST HANDSOME AMONGST THE SAHABA

Let me share with you a sahabi named Mus'ad Ibn Umayr (ra),Mus'ad Ibn Umayr (ra) was from the Branch Banu Adb al- Dar of the tribe of Quraish, he was the one who resembled the Prophet(saw) in his Appearance and Character!!!!, who the Prophet(saw) looked at him and realize he had a BEAUTIFUL TONGUE, so He sent him to Madina...He was the one who went to Madina and when the Prophet(saw) migrated from Macca to Madina, he found 8,000 people from Madina and were singing Taalu Albaduru Alaina!!!!,Where did they come from????, From Mus'ab Ibn Umayr!!....During that period many people from Madina had accepted Islam,so they requested for a Teacher from the Prophet(saw) who will teach them the Fundamentals of islam, tha't's how come Mas'ab Ibn Umayr ended up in madina.Do you know what he did my dear reader ????. He went from door to door to convy Islam to the people!!!,let me tell you a little about him Before Islam,before Islam he was the WEALTHIEST!!, Before Islam he was the Most HANDSOMEST!!, Before Islam he use to look after HIMSELF!!,he use to Put on soo much PERFUME and look after himself soo much that the women of Macca,when they Smelled his Perfume from a Distance,they would Stand in a line to wait for him to Pass!!!, WANTING TO ATTRACT HIM!!!!....Whenever the Prophet(saw) talked of him,He would say ''''''''' THERE IS NOBODY MORE HANDSOME IN MACCA THAN MUS'AB IBN UMAYR (RA), THERE IS NO PERSON IN THE CITY BETTER CLOTHED AND FED THAN MUS'AD IBN UMAYR (ra)!!! '''''''' Let me share with you a little about how he grew up as a child my brothers and sisters, Mus 'ab Ibn Umayr was a very handsome young man,when i say HANDSOME i mean REAL HANDSOME JUST LIKE THE PROPHET(SAW) IN HIS CONDUCT AND TONGUE!, He was the son of Umayr who was a Wealthy person.He brought up his son in a Quite a Luxurious Fashion,Mus'ab enjoyed the best of FOOD!!,finest of DRESSES!! and the Best of PERFUMES!!..When he Embraced Islam he donated EVERYTHING that he had as his Wealth Allahu Akbar !!, he did that in the course of those who are in Need,.In the battle of Uhud, Mus'ab Ibn Umayr, fighting like a lion!!!, defending the Muslims!!,the Prophet(saw)!!!!,defending Islam so YOU and I can enjoy today!!!, when a spear attacked him!!,it strucked him!!!, One by One Until he had Over 17 stub wounds on him!!!!!,and he died. After the battle was over, the Prophet(saw) stood by the dead body of Mus'ab Ibn Umayr and recited the verse '''''' THERE ARE SOME PERSONS AMONG THE DEVOTED MUSLIMS WHO KEPT THE PROMISE MADE TO ALLAH '''''....When the Prophet(saw) was addressing the bead body, He said ''''''''' WHEN I SAW YOU FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MACCA,THERE WAS NOBODY MORE HANDSOME AND WELL-DRESSED THAN YOU,BUT I SEE THAT TODAY YOUR HAIR IS UNCOMBED AND ONLY A SHEET OF CLOTH COVERS YOUR BODY '''''' What happened was,they searched through his things,his wealth!,all the could find was a piece of cloth to shroud him, and when they would cover his head,his feet would show!!!, when the cover his feet, his head would show!!, and Prophet(saw) said '''''OH MUS'AB IBN UMAYR!!, WE COULD NOT FIND ANYTHING OF THE WEALTH JUST TO COVER UR WHOLE BODY AND BLURRY YOU!!!!!, YOU DONATED IT ALL TO THOSE IN NEED!!, IN JANNAT IS WHERE WE SHELL MEET,AL FIRDOUS ''''''' So they Covered his feet with Grass and buried him....My brothers and sisters, this are the type of people who will be FLYING AROUND THE THRONE OF ALLAH LIKE BIRDS TILL QIYAMAH!!!,why because they are TOO SPECIAL!!!...Today people judge people by HOW WELL THEY ARE EDUCATED!!,WHAT THEY DO FOR LIVING, GIVING OUT THE EXTRA THINGS WE DON'T NEED AND WE LIE TO YOURSELF YOU LOVE ALLAH????.....Allahu Lah Illaha Ilah Anta Astighfuruka Watubulaykah..

Characteristics of a Pious women

▶ A pious woman’s priority is to seek the pleasure of Allah. She tries acquiring the qualities of a good wife by following the examples of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and obeying what is commanded in the Book of Allah. Complete obedience and adherence to the Sunnah of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and Quran is the best of a woman’s qualities.

Examples:→

▶ A woman is married for four reasons: for her wealth, for her fame, for her beauty and for her religion. So marry one for her religion and you will win. [Bukhari & Muslim]

▶ Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands) and guard in their husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their honor, husbands property, etc) [4:34]

▶ An-Nasaii narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) was asked “Who are the best of women?” He replied, “The one who pleases him (her husband) if he looks at her, obeys him if he orders (her) and does not subject her honor or money to what he dislikes.”

▶ Ibn Hibban narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If a woman prayed five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any of its(eight) doors.”

Reflect on:→

▶ If a woman harms (in any way) her husband, then his wife in Paradise tells her: “Do not harm him, May Allah fight you, he is only staying temporarily with you. Soon he will come to us.” [Ahmad & At-Tirmithi]

▶ If a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses till he slept while angry, then the Angels will curse her till the morning. [Muslim]

▶ Allah does not look to the woman who does not appreciate her husband while she cannot stand his departing her. [An-Nasaii].

▶ A woman does not fast while her husband is present without his permission, except in Ramadan. [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]

▶ Any woman who asks her husband for divorce for no reason will not smell the fragrance of Paradise. [Sahih Al-Jamii]

▶ The Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If I were to order anyone to bow down to other than Allah, I would order the wife to do so for her husband. By the One who owns the soul of Muhammad,if a wife does not fulfill her obligations towards her husband, then she will not have fulfilled her obligations towards Allah.” [Ahmad]

“Bad statements are for bad people (or bad women for bad men) and bad people for bad statements (or bad men for bad women)”
[al-Noor 24:26]

We ask Allaah to help you to make a good choice and to bless you with a righteous wife who will keep you chaste and you will keep her chaste, and you will treat her well and she will treat you well, and to bless you with good and righteous children.
And Allaah is the Source of strength.

COURTING/DATING IN ISLAM

ASSALAMU ALAIKUM WA REHMATULLAHI WA BARKATUH

BETTER HALF BETTER LIFE

COURTING/DATING IN ISLAM

"Dating" as it is currently practiced in much of the world does not exist among Muslims. Young Muslim men and women (or boys and girls) do not enter into one-on-one intimate relationships, spending time alone together, "getting to know each other" in a very deep way before deciding whether that's the person they will marry.

Rather, in Islam pre-marital relationships of any kind between members of the opposite sex is forbidden.

Why?
The choice of a marriage partner is one of the most important decisions a person will make in his or her lifetime. It should not be taken lightly, nor left to chance or hormones. It should be taken as seriously as any other major decision in life - with prayer, careful investigation, and family involvement.
⭐⭐A relationship outside the confines of marriage is essentially haram. If you meet someone and there is a mutual attraction. You do it the right way. He informs your family. You do not get too cozy by exchanging text messages and calls. You do it the right way. If he is serious, he 'd contact your guardian.⭐⭐

 

Before making a decision to marry this person, you guys can have conversations in the presence of your mahram (guardian), not locked up in a room. The guardian doesn't have to sit on the same table with you; basically your conversation has to be in an open area. This is a very important point and you should take advantage by finding out as much as you can about your potential spouse.

Ask the tough questions and see how you both get along in conversations. Is he/she comfortable with your aspirations? What does he look for in a spouse?

WARNING!

It is not permissible for her under any circumstances to be alone with him (khulwah) before marriage. It is well known that in such meetings the none of them show their true nature, but rather they are on their best behaviors and trying to make a good impression. Even if they were to be alone or to go out, they will not show their true character. Many of those who go out with a fiancé in this sinful manner end up in tragedy and these sinful steps, whether they were taken in private or in public, do not bring any benefits.

Often the fiancé will use sweet words and play with the emotions of his fiancée when he goes out with her, and he shows her his best side, but when she makes enquiries about him and tries to find out more about him, she will discover something entirely different. So going out with him or being alone with him does not solve the problem. Even if for the sake of argument we were to say that it does serve some purpose in finding out about the man's character, the resulting sin and possibility of leading to bad consequences is far greater than that (potential benefit). This is why Islam forbids being alone with a strange (non-mahram) man – and the fiancé is still a stranger.

✨The Prophet said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third." (Sahih Bukhari)✨

You can meet multiple times if needed but all in the presence of a guardian; If you have things in particular that put you off then make sure you ask him/her about it and ask him/her to be honest because it will lead to problems in future, do not hesitate in this matter even if the Qs are a little embarrassing ask it in a dignified manner without offending the person.

After this, you make a decision whether you want him as a husband, he also decides whether he wants you as a wife. When there is an agreement, you start making plans for marriage. "Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner." [Noble Quran 2:232]

✅ During the whole process you can do Isitikhaara as many times as you want to seek Allah’s help in making the right deisicion and InshaAllah it will be the right one for you for this world & the Hereafter. ✅

Just remember, Marriage is Simple, after all this there is no guarantee it will work; but if you have two people that believe in and love Allah.. Then no matter what happens you know that the rights of the other will not be violated.

Interesting article on Halal Meat

WHAT MAKES A MEAT HALAL OR HARAM??
Ans: it is the undrained blood that contaminates the meat, which  makes it haram.
What non-muslim butchers do is completely chop of the head as a result of which the connection between the brain and the heart is lost hence the heart stops pumping/beating almost instantaneously, therefore there is no driving force to push the blood out of the body. As a result of this the blood stagnates in the veins and arteries and contaminates the meat. Scientifically blood is one of the best culture mediums to grow bacteria. Consuming meat contaminated with blood makes humans more vulnerable to infections and joint pains. (Joint pains because of high uric acid levels in blood)

SO WHAT IS THE HALAL WAY??
Ans: we do not chop off the head completely, but instead we cut the main vein (jugular vein) in the neck first. This vein contains venous blood in high pressure and it directly connects to the atrium of the heart without any interference. This method of slaughtering preserves the connection between the brain and the heart which allows neural transmissions to be delivered. This keeps the heart pumping/beating until all the blood is drained off completely from every vein and artery in the body making the meat pure and thus halal. SUBHANALLAH.

SO THE NEXT QUESTION IS WHAT MAKES FISH HALAL EVEN THOUGH IT IS NOT SLAUGHTERED THIS WAY??
Allah SWT has created fish in such a way that the moment it is removed from water the entire blood in its body is redirected to a part called the epiglottis in its mouth which turns bright red thus indicating that the blood is drained and the meat is pure. SUBHANALLAH.

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